Recently, I came across research about how some Japanese tourists have to be “helped” home from Paris because the city of love doesn’t meet their unrealistic expectations.
In some cases this has resulted in full blown nervous breakdown.
Psychologists have dubbed it “Paris Syndrome.”
What was intriguing for me was how unrealistic expectations about what Paris should be like created both physical and mental illness, when their expectations were not met.
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Many of us have things we’d like to change: our exercise and diet habits, procrastination and productivity habits, patience and mindfulness habits, quitting bad habits, decluttering and finances, reading and learning and doing all the things we want to do in life.
But very often we fall short of our hopes.
What’s the problem? Why do we struggle with these changes?
There are lots of reasons, some of them external … but the main reason that it’s difficult to stick to these changes is actually internal.
The main reason changing our lives is hard: we get in our own way.
How? Our thinking is the problem. See if you’ve done any of these: [Read more…] about The Main Reason Changing Your Life is Tough
I absolutely adore the Internet, but there’s no doubt it has led to more distraction than ever.
I can see this in myself, and in watching everyone else around me: constant use of laptops, switching between browser tabs, checking things on iPhones, typing in a message here and there … we all do it.
But it’s not a good formula for getting things done.
We may feel productive when we’re constantly switching between things, constantly doing something, but in all honesty, we’re not.
We’re just distracted.
A friend recently told me she thinks she has a problem: it’s hard to get work done, or focus on anything at all, with all of the distractions. In truth, we all have this problem.
We’re all suffering from Distraction Syndrome.
This causes people not to be able to study for class, to get important or difficult work done, to create, to be mindful throughout their day.
So what’s the cure for Distraction Syndrome?
Here’s what works for me: [Read more…] about The Cure for Your Distraction Syndrome
A high school teacher drew a dot on the blackboard and asked the class what it was. “A chalk dot on the blackboard,” was the only response.
“I am surprised at you,” the teacher said. “I did this exercise with a group of kindergarteners and they thought of fifty different things it could be: an owl’s eye, a squashed bug, a cow’s head. They had their imaginations in high gear.”
As Picasso so eloquently put it “Every child is an artist. The challenge is to remain an artist after you grow up.”
When you look at children their minds are often like the free and fearless eagle we see in the sky.
Their minds are not limited with all of the baggage of what can’t be done.
If there is one thing that we can learn from kids, it’s this.
Charlie Munger (Warren Buffets partner and a Billionaire), in one of his talks, tells the story of Nobel science winner Max Planck.
Max Planck, after he won the Nobel Prize, went around Germany giving a standard lecture on quantum mechanics.
As his speech never changed, over time his chauffeur memorized the lecture and eventually said to him “Would you mind, Professor Planck, because it’s so boring to stay in our routine, if I gave the lecture in Munich and you just sat in front wearing my chauffeur’s hat?”
Planck replied, “Why not?”
And the chauffeur got up and gave this long lecture on quantum mechanics.
During the Q&A session a physics professor stood up and asked a incredibly difficult question.
To which the speaker (chauffeur) replied, “Well, I’m surprised that in an advanced city like Munich I get such an elementary question. I’m going to ask my chauffeur to reply.
The reason I tell that story is not to celebrate the quick wittedness of the chauffeur.
But to make a point.
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