Fear is the Root of Your Problems

Every problem you or I have (and they are many, small and large), is rooted in fear.

For some, that might seem obvious: the question is how to beat the fears. For others, it’s not so self-evident: why are my financial or relationship or procrastination problems caused by fear?

Let’s tackle both questions — the Why and the How.

First the Why: think about each problem you have, and then think about why you have the problem. Or why you aren’t able to solve it.

A few examples: [Read more…]

Confidence in Your Business

The urgent desire for a successful business, and the fear of losing business, drives many a good person to do sleazy things.

I’m not talking about casino owners or pimps or politicians or corporations. I’m talking about good small business owners who become marketers.

Let’s say you have a blog, and you write good stuff, and people like it. Now what? How do you build that into a business?

Maybe you see people who’ve made millions online: How did they do it? Internet marketing. They built mailing lists, then manipulated those lists through emotional tactics, social proof, creating false urgency, building funnels, warming up the lists, making the potential customers think they need this or they’ll fail.

You see this success and all of a sudden you want it. You don’t know how to build a business, but this guy did it and he is successful. So you buy his course, and follow his advice. [Read more…]

The Hard Stuff Often Matters Most

I’ve tried a lot of types of exercise, but by far the most effective exercise in terms of results for time spent is heavy barbell lifts.

For 10-15 minutes of lifting a barbell laden with weights, I get a better physique, improved health, more strength and muscle, less bodyfat.

I’ve spent hours at doing karate, running, doing bodyweight exercises, doing Crossfit, playing sports, biking, swimming, and generally doing the craziest kinds of exercises possible. They’re all very good, but for the time that I’ve invested in them, weights are the ones that matter most.

I’ve found the barbell method — lifting the heavy stuff but for short periods — works for lots of things in life. From productivity to relationships to finances to losing bodyfat to business growth. [Read more…]

Pillar #5 of Awesome Risk-Taking: Throw Away Plan B

This is the final pillar of a 5 pillar series that I’m writing for adventurous risk-takers looking to change their lives by taking more chances.

Anyone can do something crazy, but it takes a little more finesse to do it great, and the steps aren’t as well known as you might think.

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Throw Away Plan B

When I left my last job, my mind went about 10 different directions all at once. I knew I wanted to strike out on my own, but I wasn’t sure exactly what I wanted to do.

Actually, that’s not true. I knew I wanted to work online. I knew I wanted to write. I knew I wanted to make take my experiences of growing a multi-million dollar business and teach others to do the same. So naturally, the first thing I did was gather as many letters of recommendations as I could and blast my resume all over town.

Can you see a problem here?

I wanted a Plan B. I wanted a rock-solid Plan B. I wanted an escape hatch that I could crawl through if this whole “follow my dreams” thing didn’t pan out. Of course, I hadn’t even given myself half a chance to succeed yet, but you know, better safe than sorry.

This is conventional wisdom. Even most entrepreneurs suggest you should have something in your pocket to fall back on if Plan A goes to pieces.

That’s why what I’m abot to say is probably going to be pretty unpopular. Most will call it irresponsible. But that’s okay, this is a website about taking risks, so I’m going to say it anyway: [Read more…]

Pillar #4 of Awesome Risk-Taking: Make the Leap

This is pillar #4 of a 5 pillar series that I’m writing for adventurous risk-takers looking to change their lives by taking more chances.

Anyone can do something crazy, but it takes a little more finesse to do it great and the steps aren’t as well known as you might think.

Be sure to sign up for free updates to keep up with the lessons and get some unpopular but very effective knowledge about turning your scary ideas into reality.

Make the Leap

You’ve learned to embrace risk, forget about all the odds against you, and to plan on tossing your plan. The next logical step in the process then, of course, is to execute it. It’s easy to understand, but don’t be too surprised if the easiest part of the process to understand is absolutely the most difficult to actually do.

When you’re finally standing at the ledge and its time to act, a lot of the latent concerns that you thought you’d dealt with all of a sudden come back to confront you again. Wave hello to your lizard brain, because there he is.

It could be a harmless comment from a friend asking you how it’s coming along. Maybe at the last minute you realize that there’s a better way to do it and now you want to work that into your plan. Maybe you’re second guessing whether you should even be taking on such a crazy idea. Either way, the fear is back and you’re unsure of yourself again.

I don’t know if there’s a way to avoid this type of last-minute, cold-feet syndrome. If there is, I haven’t found it. In fact, I nearly lose my breath every single time I hit publish and release an article for you to read. I’m even struggling right now as I get ready to send this post out to the world.

What if you hate it? Even worse, what if you ignore it? I thought I’d gotten past this, but without fail, there it is again. [Read more…]

Feeling Down? Here Are 7 Ways to Pick Yourself Back Up!

From time to time, we all get a little down, maybe even a little depressed. Maybe we are feeling overwhelmed, or feel bad because we’re not doing well with our goals. There are many reasons for feeling down, and I’m not qualified to discuss all of them, their implications, or clinical treatment. What I can talk about are some things that have worked for me.

Feeling a little depressed can interfere with achieving our goals. We know we should be doing something, but we just don’t feel like doing anything. This can last for a long time if you don’t head it off as soon as possible and take action. If you are Feeling Down? Here Are 7 Ways to Pick Yourself Back Up! : [Read more…]